Back in Sunny L.A. — it's like summer here. My trees are blooming, the bikini girls are back on the beach, the Divine Redhead dragged me out dancing for the first time in — ever. Life is good.

So I thought I'd take a deep breath here and get back to basics.

And by that I mean, how can you better communicate with women so that –

1: they can feel the man you really are, the best parts of you, the "gift" of you, and

2: they will be touched, intrigued and attracted to you before you even meet.

One of our guys just wrote to me from Calgary and asked for some comments, so I thought I'd share my response with you, too.

The learning never ends.

Here's his letter to me — More

There is no doubt that Lance Mason's Real World Rapport Seminar rocked.

Guys walked in with high hopes and walked out with a boatload of new ideas, techniques, opening lines, follow ups, mindsets and general rapport expertise.

One name that KEPT popping up was David Deida.

His ideas on masculine strength, direction, and honing our unique ability to guide a woman out of her fear, mistrust and emotional bounds into new landscapes of passion, trust, bliss, openness, lightness, possibility and - my personal favorite - sexual ecstasy — have UTTERLY CHANGED my life, and the lives of most of the teachers at the Rapport Event.

In fact, David D'Angelo recently told me that he thinks he is responsible for selling more David Deida books than anyone on Earth.

Why?

Because Deida More

I know I've been bombarding you with coming events.

And I want to say a word about that before I get to some internet dating Q and A….

I don't do everything equally well.

I can teach you how to express yourself in powerful, sensual, crafted, suggestive, magnetic language — better than anyone in the world, in my opinion.

I can bring you cutting-edge teachers in advanced sexuality and tantra…

And, although I haven't really publicized what I've been doing privately, I can help any man bust through his inner limitations and change his entire life to not only be infinitely more attractive to women, but to be happy and energized.

But Day Game?

I gotta tip my hat to Lance…

Ya want great day game technique? Get your ass to S.F. and learn from Lance Mason, David Wygant and the others (yeah, including me) - about how to approach and intrigue women in a flash.

http://www.GrantLikes.com/rapport

If you want some serious personal transformation — acceleration into full, powerful manhood?

Go to David D's 5 Day/11 Week Transformation Workshop.

http://www.ManTransformationLive.com

Or go to David Deida's live 150 person workshops. He is a living master, and has done more than ANYONE to help me burn away the B.S. that held be back from fearless living and balls-out loving…

http://www.GrantLikes.com/deidaevents

Or go to Satyen Raja's Sex, Passion and Enlightenment weekend - also will burn away your B.S. Satyen worked closely with Deida for years and adds martial arts and FUN plus rooms full of women who are truly open to a man who can deliver.

http://www.GrantLikes.com/satyen

Or wait for the intense personal coaching I'm bringing out later this Spring.

All top notch trainings.

Listen, I've taught at Cliff's List. I've gotten to know who knows their sh*t and who's a poser…

I've seen the GREAT teachers. I've seen the ok teachers. And I've seen goofball newbies hawking playground tricks for $999 a weekend.

I only bring the best.

Ok, enough of my rant.

If you want to accelerate your learning, you now know your options.

On to some Q and A from the mailbag…

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Hey Grant,

I purchased your N2B course yesterday and started working through the exercises tonight. The audio portion is great, and it provides a level of nuance that the PDF's can't match. The audio increases the value to the program to me.

I've had moderate success attracting and dating women online, but I'm now committed to taking my dating life to the next level, and one part of that is my online strategy.

You said you like hearing about screen name ideas and I would appreciate your advice. Typically I've done the "boring variation on my name thing"… like billy364 or billy1023… I see how boring that is to women after listening to your course. So I'm thinking of changing to "Live@Limits" or "LiveAtLimits" … which actually has some deeper meaning to me and my mission in life, although I don't plan on saying that directly in my profile in anyway (although I will demonstrate it!)

Your thoughts? Your most biting criticism? I prefer hearing blunt advice!

Thanks for your course,

Bill

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Hey Bill,

Thanks for your kind words.

And yes, "Billy1023"… what's the word?…um…oh yeah… SUCKS!

Your new choice, Live@limits is getting closer.

But I want you to think about something…

One of the key N2B Principles is to offer a sense of open-endedness, expansiveness. The power of a well-pointed WILL.

Even before I dove deeply into the work of David Deida, who emphasizes the masculine appeal of "directiveness" I knew that women are IMMEDIATELY attracted to guys who are going somewhere…

That means that they steer the ship of their lives.

Maybe they pursue an art fiercely…

Maybe they run their own business…

Maybe they are wild physical risk takers…

But in each case, these men are CREATING their own joy and their own world.

Not waiting for someone else to hand it to them.

There is, of course, a deeper layer (there always is).

And that truth is that women instinctively feel they can TRUST these kinds of men…

Maybe not to buy them a house in the suburbs and father 2.3 kids.

But they trust these kinds of men to GIVE THEM AN EXPERIENCE OF LIFE as something VITAL.

Certainly more vital than most women can create for themselves.

Listen…

Men who live through their edges of fear and resistance TURN WOMEN ON.

Because they are AN ADVENTURE.

(The best kind of adventure, and the kind of man who attracts the best kind of woman, is the man who lives through his fear into deeper levels of expansive, unshakeable consciousness. But that's for later this Spring).

The point for now is…

You don't want to live WITHIN your self-created limits (fears). You don't want to live AT your limits.

You want to live THROUGH your limits.

Or as Deida puts it — you want to LEAN INTO YOUR FEAR — and pass through to the other side.

So, translation:

Make it not "Living@Limits"

But, "LivingBeyondLimits"…

Or…

"EdgeLiving"

Or…

"WhatLimits?"

These are even bolder and more open ended. There's a fearlessness about them — which, of course, you need to back up with some ballsy living choices.

So I put it to you…

How are you pushing your inner limits? Your outer limits?

What INNER ADVENTURE do you embody that would turn a woman on?

Women want men who are powerful. Not merely in bicep and thigh. Not merely in equity accounts and real estate.

But men who push through their own limitations and expand into new stages of inner strength, reliability, confidence, openness, compassion, fearlessness and truth.

But again, I'm getting ahead of myself. More on that later this Spring.

Live through your fears. Break out. Go beyond what you thought your life could offer.

DRINK life down in its fullness even though you know you might puke a little as your body and your spirit adjusts.

It's everything I outlined in my December Complete Attractor, The Seven Pillars of Male Magnetism.

Be vitality.

And convey that in your screenname — and then in how you carry yourself.

But let's start with the screenname!

For now, I hope this helps.

Your friend,

Grant,

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Grant,

I have been improving myself at a snails pace. Look at the positive…..I'm moving forward and improving. I'm planning on going to David DeAngelo's Transformation event in April. I hear that you'll be there too. Look forward to meeting you there. I'll have to write to you about my thoughts on reading David Deida Book The Way of The Superior Man.

I've heard of Satyen before. Isn't he teaching Advanced Tantric Techniques and Enlightenment? It would be like putting the Cart before the Horse. First you have to have a woman interested in you before you can use his techniques on them. How is the Rapport Seminar different that David DeAnglo's 5-day Event?

Thanks for taking the time to respond.

Gabriel

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Gabriel,

First of all, I admire your tenacity.

We all move forward at the rate of our own impatience.

Me? I got to a point where I was just INCREDIBLY IMPATIENT to leave behind fears and old stories, and just get out and be worthy of the most beautiful, feminine, supportive, spiritual, happy, loving, high-spirited woman available.

(Happily, I succeeded).

My advice — do it all.

No, Satyen's Sex Passion and Enlightenment course rocks on all levels! Yes, he can take men and women into the deepest levels of spiritual-sexual bliss states in his workshops, but it all begins with the rudiments he teaches, just like Deida: Breath. Body.
Intention.

Essential building blocks for powerful masculine presence.

Go to http://www.GrantLikes.com/satyen for S.P.E. - I think he has workshops in February and March this Spring.

As for the difference between Lance and David D's workshops… I think I answered that above.

Lance's is to build instant and powerful rapport in any situation.

http://www.GrantLikes.com/rapport

David D's is to TRANSFORM you WHOLE WAY OF LIVING so that you are a powerful, purposeful, attractive masculine presence.

http://www.ManTransformationLive.com

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As you can tell, I'm a bit on fire these days.

I have had HUGE BREAKTHROUGHS this past year for myself.

I grew impatient with my own limits. I grew impatient with not being the most powerfully happy, open-hearted, comfortable man possible.

I saw WAY past pick-up this year.

I even saw WAY past attraction.

I have been working in the arena of POWERFUL EXPRESSION OF YOUR BEST CORE SELF. Full throttle living.

Stay tuned on that. It goes WAY further than technique.

And it goes to the core of what makes life worth living in the first place.

Your friend,

Grant

This morning, I threw on sweats and headed out into the dawn hills high above the Pacific, where I live.

I hike hard. I hike fast. I carry handweights. I do stop to take in the views.

And I always take along brilliant company.

Often it's David Deida. His audios, which will be available to the world in about a month.

Sometimes it's interviews I've done with dating "gurus." Or books on tape: 4 Hour Workweek. Freakonomics. Words That Work, by Frank Luntz. Pema Chedron. Chris Rock. Dave Attell.

This morning, it was Harv Eker. He of "The Millionaire Mind."

I've met they guy and he is a marketing genius. He's created a huge organization teaching people how to reprogram their internal programs so they can open themselves and act toward financial success.

I'm all for THAT!

Anyway, something he said on this audio caught my attention regarding success with women.

Because we are doing the same thing in this community - reprogramming how we think, how we carry ourselves, how we express ourselves to women - so that we attract GREAT women effortlessly, naturally and steadily…

… until we find that one amazing woman who makes our life better in virtually every way.

If that's what you eventually want.

So what ol' Harv said was this…

He was talking about the stories we grow up with around money. About the stories we tell ourselves about whether we deserve to be wealthy or not. Whether we think we are worth 50 grand a year or 500 grand a year or 5 million a year.

The line that caught my attention, and should catch yours is this:

"You will live into your story."

What he means is this…

Simply, if you tell yourself you're only worth 25G a year, you will probably never exceed that.

If your story is that you are a creative, dynamic, learning, positive, success-creating individual - you are FAR more likely to live your life into THAT narrative.

What is the story you are telling yourself about women?

If I've learned one thing since my divorce and zero-self esteem moment then, is that YOU GET TO CREATE YOUR LIFE!

And it starts with what story you tell yourself about yourself.

About what you deserve.

About what kind of happiness you deserve.

About what kind of WOMEN you deserve.

I did two years of therapy after my divorce to exorcise the demons a destructive marriage implanted in my self-narrative.

I did workshops with guys like Satyen Raja at http://www.GrantLikes.com/satyen (go to his Sex Passion and Enlightenment workshops!!! - tell them I sent you for the super discount).

I did Landmark type stuff.

I read and re-read David Deida's books until they crumbled back into pulp. http://www.GrantLikes.com/deidaevents
And I dated hoards of women, always trading up, up and up into the most loving, baggage-free, enlightened feminine goddesses that this fertile earth has nourished.

And through it all - I CHANGED MY INNER NARRATIVE of who I was and what I deserved.

I will be leading some circles on this later this year.

For now…

Please get to David D's Transformation Seminar in April.

I talk to him all the time and he will be doing GREAT work - actual exercises, not just talking about it - on EXACTLY this issue.

When you meet that AMAZING girl - you'd better be ready INSIDE to know you are worth her - and that she is worth you.

If you can get to David's D's Transformation Seminar - please come join me there.

Here's where to sign up:

http://www.ManTransformationLive.com

Tickets go on sale TODAY.

No B.S.

Live into the best, most expansive, most successful, most love-filled, love-creating, adventurous, hot, sexy, happy life you can.

Because, as far as I can tell - you don't get do-overs.

See you in April…

Your friend

Grant

P.S. - Here's your David D seminar link:

http://www.ManTransformationLive.com

What are you doing tomorrow?

Same old, same old?

Well, don't.

Here's the scoop — I'm giving away two of my programs - pick any two you want - for free.

I'm doing it because I want you to join me, if you can make it, to one of two EXCELLENT workshops:

1. The mother of all Attraction Workshops - David D's TRANSFORMATION INTENSIVE - 5 full days with 11 weeks of follow up teletrainings - which is devoted to helping guys amp up their lives in all ways so that they will be far more
naturally attractive to women.

I'll be teaching. Lance Mason. And Neil Strauss who wrote The Game. Plus plenty of surprise guest teachers. It is guaranteed to be a life changing event for anyone who participates. It's meant for BOLD change. So I'm making my bold offer, and putting my money where my mouth is.

To find out more, go here:

http://www.ManTransformationLive.com

Reminder: Tickets go on sale TOMORROW and might sell out, so act if you think you might want to make it.

2. Lance Mason's REAL WORLD RAPPORT seminar. The one question I get from guys more than any other is "how do I go from being just a friend to a sexualized rapport?" It really is a problem in this culture. You want to be respectful but you want also to turn her on.

Lance's weekend seminar at the end of February attacks exactly that threshold. Again, I'll be there, along with the best teachers I know - David Wygant, Dave M, Zan, the AMP guys, and more. It will be laser targeted and full of beautiful women to practice on.

http://www.GrantLikes.com/rapport

So that's it. My hands are tired from writing you about these two workshops.

I put my name on the line. I'm putting up to 500 bucks on the line by giving away my programs which cost me a LOT in time and effort.

But I'm doing well.

I've made HUGE strides in my life, partly by putting myself into workshops like these.

And I'd be a selfish a**hole if I didn't do everything I could to get you to make whatever changes you most want in your own life. I don't know, maybe it's because I'm getting older, but I don't have patience for procrastination.

So…

Make changes. Have breakthroughs. Accept no mediocrity.

And have fun.

See you there.

Your friend,

Grant

P.S. - Here are the programs I'm giving away to anyone who steps up and joins me at either workshop…

* Net2Bed/Net2Wed: How to Attract The Woman of Your Dreams For A Night, A Lifetime Or Anything In Between - My manual on standout online dating success

* How To Talk To A Beautiful Woman - An amazing curriculum of interviews with beautiful woman about what they want and don't want from you — and with 8 top Attraction Gurus

* Erotic Mastery - An unmatched multi-part guide to being a creative, outstanding lover

* Tantric 101 - A guide to deep communion and creating spiritual bliss through sex

Choices, choices, choices.

I know, I'm hitting you pretty hard…

But life is choices. And the first one is action.

Or stasis.

I just wrote you about David D's Once In A Lifetime 5 Day Super Seminar on Personal Transformation for Attraction.

If you are even THINKING of going, get on the priority list NOW, because that sucker will sell out fast.

Here's your link…

http://www.ManTransformationLive.com

But maybe you don't have 5 full days free…

Or maybe you want to focus on the one KEY SKILL of RAPPORT.

In that case, join me in San Francisco in 4 weeks for Lance
Mason's Real World Rapport Workshop.

http://www.GrantLikes.com/rapport

You will have two of the best day-game teachers in the world there - Lance and Dave Wygant.

You will have two of the best internet dating masters there
- Dave M being the other one.

You will have two masters of the social night scene - Brent Smith and J-Dog.

And you will have my buddy Decker, who carries the work of David Deida and other masters into creating deep presence with women simply by how you hold your body and breathe.

One more thing… I will be getting deeper into what I've REALLY been thinking about recently, which is Deep Attraction. I'm going to get into and demonstrate the difference between surface rapport… and connection.

Which do you think women crave more?

Rapport is ESSENTIAL for certain social situations.

It is the foundation. The building block. The short-cut establishment of trust.

Connection…

… is how you bust through into deep intimacy in a matter of seconds.

With the kind of women you really want in your life.

It's the weekend of February 29th.

I guarantee it will be a gigantic information download, a chance to practice with real live beautiful girls everything you learn… and also… fun!

Because I am serious about getting you to the best teachers in the world, I am making the same offer I made for David D's conference.

Any two of the following are yours if you show up. Just a gift from me.

* Net2Bed/Net2Wed: How to Attract The Woman of Your Dreams For A Night, A Lifetime Or Anything In Between - My manual on standout online dating success

* How To Talk To A Beautiful Woman - An amazing curriculum of interviews with beautiful woman about what they want and don't want from you — and with 8 top Attraction Gurus

* Erotic Mastery - An unmatched multi-part guide to being a creative, outstanding lover

* Tantric 101 - A guide to deep communion and creating spiritual bliss through sex

Join me in San Francisco.

http://www.GrantLikes.com/rapport

One weekend can change your life.

And increase your success with women… forever.

See you there.

Your friend,

Grant

What are your most outstanding once in a lifetime experiences?

Mine include a leggy long-distance runner named Meg.

A slippery 7.3 pound boy who launched out of one my favorite places — already smiling.

A shaman's hut in the Peruvian Amazon.

And the day I first encountered David De Angelo.

That man changed my life.

I was a recently divorced guy who had quietly mastered internet dating on my own. And here was a guy with a RIGOROUS, SCIENTIFIC MIND who had broken down the attraction sciences and had collected around him a group of teachers (some great, some sketchy) who had done the same.

David was tough to get to know at first. He is like the scholar-monk of attraction. Constantly reading. Constantly testing. Constantly interviewing great thinkers. Constantly thinking and refining his knowledge.

But slowly we became friends, and as if by some great turn of global gravitation, he, I, as well as guys like Doc and Lance all began to realize that there was something WRONG at the heart of the pick-up community.

We all recognized that there is a problem with pickup, seduction, etc., as a GOAL.

And that problem is this:

* As long as the focus is on "getting" the girl, you are coming from need.

And neediness is, at its foundation, emasculating.

David D and I have been talking about what is the real goal for our own lives and the lives of men:

For me, it's what we've been exploring in The Complete Attractor and soon with Deep Attraction and something called Be The Ride.

For David D, he's calling it TRANSFORMATION.

And he's going through it all at it the mother of all attraction seminars.

It is the culmination of his work.

He's been working on it for well over a year.

And it is a ONCE IN A LIFETIME EXPIERINCE.

Not some fly-by-night workshop.

Ready?…

It is 5 days of intense training aimed at guiding you to transform YOURSELF so that attraction isn't something you do, it's something you EMBODY.

Not just 5 days.

Five days plus 11 WEEKS of follow-up via teleseminar trainings to make sure we all put into action what we learn at the seminar itself

I will be there, teaching. As will, likely, Neil Strauss, Lance Mason and a few other genuinely masterful, deeply thoughtful guys and women.

http://www.ManTransformationLive.com

If you've grown impatient with your life in ANY way…

If you feel STUCK in your life in any way…

If you are ready to get your PhD in Masculine Power (plus have a blast doing it)…

Then this is a deal of a lifetime.

And I'm about to make it ridiculous…

I DEEPLY BELIEVE in the shift happening in men's attraction training. And I deeply believe in David D…

So I am making an unprecedented offer to you.

If you come join me at the Transformation Seminar, I will give to you, free, any TWO of the teaching products I have created in the past two years.

Pick two:

* Net2Bed/Net2Wed: How to Attract The Woman of Your Dreams For A Night, A Lifetime Or Anything In Between - My manual on standout online dating success

* How To Talk To A Beautiful Woman - An amazing curriculum of interviews with beautiful woman about what they want and don't want from you — and with 8 top Attraction Gurus

* Erotic Mastery - An unmatched multi-part guide to being a creative, outstanding lover

* Tantric 101 - A guide to deep communion and creating spiritual bliss through sex

Yup. Pick any two.

Free.

A value of about 500 bucks.

Free.

Why am I just giving stuff away?

Because I can.

And…

Because if you are not making REAL change in your life…

What the f*ck are we all doing here anyway?

See you in April at Transformation.

http://www.ManTransformationLive.com

Your pal,

Grant

Here is what one Tantric 201 attendee wrote in about tonight's call with Dark Tantra master, Robert Allen.

"Grant and Robert…. WOW! Excellent Awesome call…. Really High Level new unique and DEEP ideas that I've not found elsewhere…very appreciated… THANK YOU! I'll be listening to this a couple times more."

If you missed it, you really missed out.

But here are a few things that were covered.

Polyamory - Having More Than One Lover… And Being HONEST About It

Our culture dictates that we must have just one partner for life, but More

Our call with Triambika just ended in a rush of new ideas and Tantric concepts.

Triambika gave us key insights into the divine feminine, and the role we play as the present, upholding masculine, to support, guide and unfold her.

Let’s review a few of the most intriguing points.

What men should know about “Divine Temple Worship”

Triambika stated that simply having a different PERSPECTIVE on what it means to have sex with a woman will open your woman up beyond anything she's ever experienced before.

Rather than always looking for what’s for the taking, More

I'm sure you guys noticed that our Tantric Master for tonight's call wasn't Triambika, but the charismatic TJ Bartel. TJ graciously agreed to step in at the last second to fill in for our scheduled Tantric Teacher, who was unfortunately delayed on a plane flight. (We will have our session with Triambika in 2 weeks when I get back from Asia…)

But like I mentioned on the call, TJ has the rare gift of taking complex concepts and breaking them down into simple and easy to understand pieces. He did so tonight by answering some extremely intriguing questions that came straight from YOU on the call.

What can a man do to make a women feel safe, secure, and open, despite the fact that she may have experienced sexual abuse in her past, and you may have no training in Tantra?

Without proper Tantric training, the best thing you can do is More