Our call with Triambika just ended in a rush of new ideas and Tantric concepts.

Triambika gave us key insights into the divine feminine, and the role we play as the present, upholding masculine, to support, guide and unfold her.

Let’s review a few of the most intriguing points.

What men should know about “Divine Temple Worship”

Triambika stated that simply having a different PERSPECTIVE on what it means to have sex with a woman will open your woman up beyond anything she's ever experienced before.

Rather than always looking for what’s for the taking, approach a woman slowly, asking permission to appreciate her more deeply, beginning from the extremities, appreciating her beauty, describing it to her, perhaps in language she has never heard before.

Approach a woman as you would approach a sacred place, moving slowly through the outer chambers until you reach the holy of holies.

(Wow – THAT pun was not intended, but I like it!)

So think — how would you approach an actual temple? Would you run in, crude and unkempt, blustering and emotionless?

Of course not. You would pay respect and honor it. It is the same way with a woman's "yoni." And by honoring the feminine in such a manner, you shift a sexual encounter from the mundane to the enlightened.

She advises you just try it and see how a woman responds (for details of the step by step, you need to hear the interview)

How men can use sound to raise orgasmic potential?

Triambika gave us guidelines about how to vocalize to raise both your presence with a woman and to relax your bodies together.

The goal in the exercise she gave - to be done alone or with a partner - is taking and directing the sensation of pleasure as we're feeling it, converting it into sound, and releasing it into wide open space and the broadest consciousness.

Not the usual place of constriction and tightness that men usually feel when they are climaxing, but instead an opening.

There is power here.

Here's how that works.

As you begin feeling pleasure during sex, use your breath to direct pleasurable sensations upwards. Engage this sensation and let it rise within your body. Let it rise up through and within your throat as you exhale, in a sound of pure release and expansion. (The sound should be an exhale)

You do NOT want to keep these feelings and sounds bottled up in constricted breaths and tight sensations. Let your pleasurable feelings escape in SOUND that resonates and expands in space. By releasing your pleasure through sound you are giving all of that built up tension and pleasure a place to go and unwind (again, it helps to hear the sound she made during the interview).

When you are practicing your ejaculatory control with this exercise, you'll realize that by giving these sensations release, this spaciousness helps the pleasure spread throughout your body, not just in your genitals. Ultimately, your orgasms don’t have to be linked to an ejaculation at all, as we’ve discussed in other sessions.

One of the gifts of Tantra — you can have wicked, full body orgasms, again and again, without the sex coming to a sudden, jerky stop, as it does with 99% of men once they ejaculate.

How to teach her and guide a new woman into Tantric experience without freaking her out

One of the big things that turned me off originally about Tantra when I was first introduced to it was the classic Sanskrit jargon and impossible sounding Indian terminology.

How can you prevent this from happening to your sexual partners so they won't reject these practices?

Triambika told us that if you are currently in a relationship, you already know if your partner has an open mind to this kind of thing or not. And even with someone you just met, you can tell pretty quickly after a few conversations if she will be open minded about Tantra, or completely closed off to it.

But even if she is a bit closed off about esoteric subjects like sexual enlightenment and spirituality, you can still introduce her to Tantra by telling her that you want to "honor" her or "appreciate" her more. Tell her, "I really want to show you the inside of my heart and love every inch of you. Don't feel shy I love you just as you are."

In other words, skip the fancy Indian words.

Any woman worth investing your time into should feel grateful for receiving this kind of adoration and honor – however it might be very strange for her at first. She might resist such deep adoration of the feminine (remember, you are adoring through her – not her ego, but her as woman, as feminine, as incarnation of the Goddess)

There may even be some tears and initial discomfort – and key here- your job is not to FIX that but just stay present – using some of the presence practices she discusses in the first half of our session.

A lot of women may resist initially, not because they want to, but because they bring social, religious, or cultural shame into the bedroom. But just keep loving her. You don't have to do anything but hold her while she sorts it out in her mind and heart.

Patiently let her move through her feelings of self worth and trust. Because at the end of it she will open herself even more deeply to you.

And if she doesn’t. If she has too much self hatred to relax into your genuine adoration and attention, then she needs to do her own therapy and work out some deep issues.

Most women will WELCOME and RELAX into a man who brings these tantric-inspired attentions.

Be that man, and you will have the gratitude, sexual openness and return pleasure of almost every woman you’ll ever meet.

Which is one of the reasons we are doing this course.

I hope you enjoyed the session.

I hope you learned. A LOT.

Your Pal,

Grant

PS - Talk to you next week on Tuesday, November 27 when we have our last Tantric 201 call with Robert Allen. We will be exploring "Dark Tantra" so you don't want to miss it. Talk soon…